When Sarah first came to me, she was exhausted.
Not just tired—emotionally, mentally, and physically drained.
She had been battling anxiety for over a decade. On the outside, she looked like she was managing—steady job, always polite, always composed. But inside? She was in a constant state of panic.
The way she described it wast:
“It’s like I’m running from a fire that no one else can see. And I’m so tired of running.”
If that hits home, you’re not alone.
In a moment, I’ll explain how I helped Sarah to not only stop running, but also finally feel safe in her own mind. She’s happy for me to talk about it, as long as I only use her first name.
Of course everybody is different, and there’s no one-size-fits-all session. I work with the person in front of me, not with the label.
So what did Sarah and I do?
STEP 1: We Got Clear on the Triggers (But We Didn’t Dwell There)
Sarah had already done years of therapy. She could talk about her anxiety with her eyes closed.
But talking hadn’t changed anything.
So we took a different approach.
We explored:
- When the anxiety showed up (spoiler: it wasn’t random)
- How her body reacted
- What her inner voice said in those moments
- What her nervous system had learned to associate with danger
We didn’t get stuck in the “why.” Especially if you have any kind of trauma, the last thing you want is to have your nose pushed back in it. Instead, we got some clarity on the pattern.
This gave us a map—not just of her anxiety, but of the deeper protective system that was trying to keep her safe (but in all the wrong ways).
STEP 2: We Cleared The Emotional Baggage
Before we did anything else, we focused on helping her nervous system feel safe again.
All through life, we go through events and tend to hoard negative feelings, images or beliefs. Some of us even take on the negativity of others. After a while, that emotional baggage becomes really heavy. It holds you back and weighs you down. Your true self becomes buried under all of that stuff.
With hypnotherapy, we bypassed the overthinking brain and spoke directly to the part of her mind that was holding onto all of that negative emotional rubbish.
As she started to let go of all of that, things shifted fast.
✅ Her heart stopped racing at the mention of some of her triggers.
✅ Her breathing slowed naturally.
✅ She was no longer feeling that hurt she had been trying to hide for long.
✅ She felt freer and lighter
Also, she didn’t try to relax, her body finally knew how.
That’s the difference. I didn’t “talk her down”, I just gave her the space and time needed to declutter her own mind.
STEP 3: We Rebuilt Her Internal Dialogue
Anxiety had given Sarah an inner voice that was relentless:
- “You’re not doing enough.”
- “What if they’re mad at you?”
- “You’re falling behind.”
We shifted that voice. Not by forcing affirmations or trying to drown it out, but by working with the part of her subconscious that created it in the first place.
It’s my belief that even that part of her mind means well, it’s just using the wrong tool or response.
The result?
That harsh inner critic got quieter, and it was like a new voice emerged: calm, grounded, supportive.
She didn’t need to “think more positively.”
Her internal voice had simply changed its tone, finding one that works for her.
STEP 4: We Taught Her Brain a New Way to Respond to Triggers
Triggers didn’t disappear, but Sarah’s reaction to them changed.
That same email from her boss that used to send her into a spiral?
Now it was just… an email.
That friend taking hours to text back?
No more panic. No more overanalysis. No more fear of abandonment.
We were not using willpower.
We were not forcing her to “stay calm.”
We taught her brain a new default response, one that didn’t involve freeze fight of flight..
STEP 5: We Locked It In with Deep Confidence Work
Once the anxiety softened, we got to the good part:
🔥 Helping Sarah feel strong, capable, and secure in herself. As she should!
Not just “managing anxiety”—but fully stepping into who she was without it.
She started setting boundaries.
She stopped apologising for things that weren’t her fault.
She took back control, not just of her emotions, but of her entire life.
Where She Is Now
When Sarah first came to me, she was surviving.
Now? She’s living.
✅ No more Sunday night dread.
✅ No more spirals over “what ifs.”
✅ No more pretending to be okay while falling apart inside.
She feels calm without trying.
She feels safe in her body.
And she knows, deep down, she’s in control now.
Just like everybody else, she might feel anxious at times and that’s ok. Anxiety itself is useful, it’s an alarm system.
She’s not stuck there anymore, and it doesn’t trigger randomly anymore.
This Is What’s Possible, And It’s Closer Than You Think
If you’re reading this and thinking, “That sounds like me, but this sounds too good to be true”
I know what you mean, I’ve been there too.
You’ve tried the coping tools. You’ve tried being strong.
You’ve told yourself to just “breathe” and “let it go.”
But here’s the truth:
Anxiety doesn’t go away by trying harder.
It goes away when you finally stop fighting yourself, and start working with your mind.
🔥 That’s what I help you do.
And it changes everything.
📅 Ready for Your Turn? Let’s Talk.
You don’t have to stay stuck in survival mode.
You don’t have to “cope” with anxiety forever.
You don’t have to figure this out alone.
Give me a shout and we can discuss how I can help you.
It’s your turn to feel calm—for real this time. 💬🧠✨
